The Mommy Guilt

The infamous mommy guilt, do you have it???? I am going to guess that every mother experiences mommy guilt on some level! Whether it is the working mom guilt, the stay at home mom guilt, the part-time working mommy guilt, or the single mommy guilt!! It is out their on all levels and we as women are plagued with it everyday! Are we feeding our kids healthy enough, is my kid to big or to small and did I do something to make them this way, do I work too many hours, or is my baby clinging to me because I am with him/her too much. Am I a bad parent because my kid goes to daycare or because my kid doesn't socialize enough since he/she is home with me everyday....IT IS EVERYWHERE!!! SO today I am going to make you feel better about yourself in regard to your mothering skills!

1. My 29 month old daughter still has both a bottle and a pacifier and I am OK with that :)
2. Last night my kids ate Olive Garden Bread Sticks(grains) and corn puffs dipped in can cheese(dairy) for dinner topped off with a strawberry daiquiri (fruit) (of course there was no alcohol in it what kind of heathen do you think I am!) :) (are you feeling better about yourself yet?)
3. My five year old has snuck into my bed 3 out of the last 5 nights and stayed there all night long right between her daddy and I...
4. My 2 year old uses dammit and bullshit consistently in her everyday speech....and laughs every time she says it...it's all fun and games until she says it in church...
5. So I finally finished ALL of my laundry a few weeks ago and while I was folding the mountains MOUNTAINS of it, I found winter pants and shirts. (don't judge) All you AWESOME laundry mama's out there can kiss my fluffy white butt!!
6.I bet you have never found sippy cups or bottles with old curdled milk in them, and just thrown them away because you didn't want to deal with it, yeah me neither, I am a MUCH better house keeper than that!
7. I may work a full-time job but that doesn't mean that when I get to the office my full-time mom and wife job stops, seriously, just ask my cell phone....(this one always gets me that people assume that while I am "relaxing" at work my other roles stop....uhhh no)
8.I have been known to prepare my kids a separate meal from what I have made for their dad an I, on more than one occasion. (why should I always have to eat off the kid menu!! and why force them to eat off the adult one when it is just going to end in a battle of the wills! I would rather take the extra ten minutes and make them something they like while encouraging them to try what I made for us...okay really I am just to lazy to mess with the battle....spoiled? maybe?
9. I am the mom that in most "mommy conversations" where we are having our children demonstrate there new tricks skills such as naming colors, and counting or saying there ABC's, my children demonstrate "girls gone wild" by lifting up their t-shirt to show off their tummy or put there hand up to their forehead in the shape of and L and say LOOOOSER (L is a letter of the alphabet, we have been working on our sign languages skills....) I mean every kid can do the normal tricks but it takes talent to pull off those unique skills!!
10. My kids are off the growth chart in height, weight and head circumference, that must mean I  force feed them, water them with sugar and sit around at night rubbing there heads into a really round shape.....really people, have you seen their dad and I .....

I am probably not going to win the "mother of the year" award for having the healthiest menu planning, and best "home" schooling techniques, I am pretty sure I am not going to win "housekeeper of the year" because the mountain of laundry is never completely finished, the empty sippy cups are always going to be there and the floors usually have crumbs on them somewhere, and I am confident that my husband would tell you that "wife of the year" is out of the picture too, just ask Carleigh she seems to think my bed holds special powers....her dad used to think that too! HA! So when you feel plagued by the mommy guilt, just remember their is someone out there who is doing a worse job than you :) And remember ladies, always smile as you are dragging your kicking screaming child out of the store in the middle of a tantrum, that will really give those other woman something to talk about!!!

Cannon Ball / Model Carleigh!!

 I love this video!! She is truly my child :) and I think she looks ADORABLE in her zucchini (her word for bikini!) Always wanting to be graceful enough to be the model but rocks out the cannon ball! LOL!  She makes me laugh EVERYDAY!! I hope that today she makes you giggle too!! ( I am also aware that when she sees this video as a teenage she will be mortified that I captured her on video this way! but for today she is okay with it!)  I love how confident she is and I hope she always maintains that!!

Tripp

There is a little boy name Tripp, he was born with a very rare skin disease and he needs our prayers!! I have been following Tripps's journey with EB since  before he turned one! His mom (Courtney) dedicates every hour of each day to his care. Tripp is very sick and in need of all the prayers we can give him! They didn't expect him to make it to his 2nd birthday but HE DID and now he is fighting for his little life. Could you please say an extra prayer today for Tripp and for Courtney and her family. Pray for God too give them a peace and to hold them extra close to Him. Thanks guys!!! If you would like to learn more about Tripp's journey please visit http://randycourtneytripproth.blogspot.com/  or click on the button on the right side of my blog page!!!

What do a Torn MCL, Mono, Strep, and E-Coli Poisoning have in common?

A Haines, Fuchs, Hall, Gasen, Vacation of course!!!! Now, this may sound like the setup for the worst vacation ever but I must tell you it was in truth one of our best ones yet!! LOL! We had WONDERFUL weather, lots of pool and lake time in the sun, and a lot of laughter! We boated to different places to eat our meals, and played on beaches and water slides(where we obtained some wicked E-coli poisoning perhaps), we swam in the pool and played sand volleyball (where the torn MCL happened), The strep and mono happened to a friend who was on vacation with us and he actually got it right upon returning home! I am not going to jabber to much but will let the pictures tell the stories!! We were in the water so much that bathing suits were our main wardrobe which in turn means not to many pictures of all of us because well we don't want to be seen like that! HA!

 Sleeping on the drive to the Ozarks, we left around 4:30 a.m. so that they could sleep for most of it!

                                                                   Driving the boat with Pa!

                  Trying to pose all these kiddos for one good picture! HA! I am pretty sure we didn't succeed!

 This is the life!! (Yes she still has a bottle at two, don't judge! she does know how to drink from a cup)

 Swimming at the beach, there were these tiny fish swimming all around the girls! It was unreal! (and maybe a little gross!!)

 Carleigh couldn't wait for Pa to take her on a "circle ride" (that is what she calls tubing!) They had a blast!

 

 Most of the place we went had these swim up bars!! There are even bar stools in the water!!!

                                              We wore them out each and every day!!!!

       LOL! Tim will love this one! But I couldn't resist! Apparently he had a few drinks and got nice and relaxed!! A fun time was had by all!!! :) Wish I had more pictures to share!

Do you ever wonder?

I know I have a vacation post to write :) I haven't forgotten and it is coming, but probably not until the first of next week!!

Do you ever wonder about Heaven? I am a Christian, I have grown up in church, went to VBS, and youth group. I know the passages in the bible about Heaven and I am confident that I am going to get to meet Jesus one day! I hope you get to meet Him too! I am a dweller, I like to ponder things and a lot of times that gets me into trouble, I am a thinker and an over analyzer and I often wonder about Heaven, about what it is going to look like, what it will be like to meet my loved ones there again and I have a special reason that I think about Heaven, you see I have had miscarriages, one of them we know was a little girl, and she would have been born around the 4th of July maybe that is why Heaven has been on my heart the past couple of weeks... I don't talk to my family about them often but occasionally I will mention to my mom that I wonder what she would have looked like, how she would have acted, She would be older than Caylee and the odds are she would have white blonde hair and blue eyes...Would she have been my calm child, can I even make one of those?! HA! The biggest thing I wonder is will she be there in Heaven waiting for us? Is she sitting up there along with our other babies we lost? Are they being rocked by Tim and I's grandma's? Are they terrorizing Jesus like their sisters back here terrorize me?? Will they be there and run into my arms when I get there, it is a strange concept for me to grasp, the fact that these little people that we never got to meet might be waiting to call me Mommy and run into my arms.  I know many people have told me I need to read the new book that is out about Heaven, I haven't yet but it is on my to do list. But for today I just wanted to know do you ever wonder????

Working Mom Blah's

Can I rant here? Oh yes I can!! LOL! So let's be real for a few minutes shall we, and this is a disclaimer notice to all the lucky stay at home mommies and daddies this is going to be working mom rant please do not get a funky taste in your mouth over it okay K!

I love my job, I am lucky to have my job in this AWFUL economy, I have a great boss and I don't really have any co-workers, I can watch Netflix or Hulu while I work and I can chat on fb or email while I do my reports, I work from home on Friday's in the summer and I can take time off whenever I need it...HELLLO DREAM JOB....It is true I have no reason to whine but the fact is I still have to WORK, I still have to leave my kids and although I am lucky that they are with family I still think it sucks that it isn't me :) cause there ain't nobody like mama!! BUT I did make this choice, I made the choice to work because it provides for my kids, it gives us the chances to make memories and go on vacations and afford to live the life we are living. For some people those things aren't important for other's they are :) I like being able to do the fun things but that doesn't mean that I don't hate the hours that I am gone!!! and after being on Vacation for 11 days I was kicking and screaming the whole way back to work!!!!!! and now I am here, on my lunch break, and this rant seems irrelevant... it won't change anything, I am blessed to have the job I have.... I just wanted to let the other working mama's know that you aren't alone on Monday mornings when you are dragging yourself back to work away from your kids.......it's okay I hate it too!! :) I would love to be at home cleaning my house, folding my piles of unending laundry, wiping snotty noses and breaking up hours of sibling rivalry, I would rather be in my kitchen burning cookies and making gourmet meals, and doing ABC's and 123's a million times a day.....just thought you should know!!